I in therapyAs far as I know the wife still with him, knowing he cheats. You have to protect Yourself, as he seems to be giving you mixed feelings. I have had enough. What should I do about it? bs 3. Maybe thats the best place to start. It is not ok he is treating you like this! He is secretive with his phone and computer. I hate to be negative, but most likely your husband has done more than you have evidence for. i dont even know how he satified all us. He strongly denies sleeping with he and she confirmed via sms to his number which she thought she was responding to him that he was talking crap. Songs were written about this, that's how much it's true. Are you happy in this relationship? The bottom line is that I think hes lying about cheating, and I think it has to do with not having conflict in your marriage. Get psychologial help. I feel crazy, insecure, confused, helpless, and cheated on and lied to. You two should marry quickly after you both pray for forgiveness! Trying to sweep it under the rug like it never happened. This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. He has cheated on me multiple times in the past. I know how hard it isbut staying in a marriage where you think your husband is lying to you is worse than the pain of leaving. I write articles on marriage success and I believe you shouldnt be with a man whom you suspect of having an affair and then lying about it. That is what started spiking my concern. I think too many people dont take their vows seriously. The biggest eye opener was when he used something I told him that Was very hard for me to tell him against me. Just imagine being with someone that doesnt do all the crap he does and you never have to worry about any of that again. Please give me your insight on this. Be very careful who you trust. And a big time feminist(b/c shes Up With Woman). could this been a sign that he is cheating on me. But when you say that when my husbands bestfriend is a cheater he has the tendency to cheat too, I am so afraid of that. Good luck xxx. some days is better than others. He asked me out a week or 2 later, and we hang out almost every day, and he picks me up. Lately Ive been wondering if he is up to no good he took a job promotion and his boss has cheated on his wife before his boss sents him text messages saying things like your wife owns you! I didnt want to be living with his parents anymore and he wouldnt be financially ready to move for awhile. Im here if you want to talk. And heres an article I wrote for another reader, who is in the same boat as you: https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/why-doesnt-he-love-me-the-way-i-love-him/, I have been with my husband for 13 years. Thats what she has girlfriends for so text them and leave my husband out of your drama. And what is the statistic, 77% of guys who cheat are friends with other guys who cheat. I realized that after we got married. Am I overreacting or am I searching for things? Once you read some of this youll have an idea of what to do. I now dont know if i do. And i really cant get much lower. Two months ago, I got a bad feeling in my gut, the kind I had in one past relationship where my ex cheated on me. Not fighting doesnt mean you have a healthy marriage. If I were you, Id suggest a session with a counselor. Of course your boyfriend wants you and her! I have been married for 5 years. Pls, help me and I need ur advise. In her book, she describes how to protect a marriage from lies and cheating. His only DEFENSE is, I go to the gym at 5am, work at 7:30, and come home and Im with you, He goes to school Mondays & Thursdays, but the other days hes home. May you accept your husband and marriage for what it is whether its divorce or working through things as a reunited couple. I HATE people especially MEN who takes advantage of woman. So it took me days to build his trust and get him to talk about it eventhough I was burning with anger and rage. I tried to commit suicide and he acted like he didnt care. He has been a real as.le , he brought her to our home, to our bed, and he even brought my baby to her several times and he was making love while my baby was sleeping in the car or so he says so. I do all the 5 signs of cheating listed above. And there is no hope left for us. We have been together for 7 years and been married for 2 years+. Sexually he changed didnt pay me no attention I felt in my gut he was cheating but he assured me I was crazy my gut never lied in the past. He likes to run to my family and say cam doing everything wrong i dont have enough sex with him.. Lol sorry i just cant. Hear are 5 tips that you man is cheating. Then a girls page. Youre at the end of your rope, it doesnt seem like he does anything for you or your marriageI dont know what I can do to help you. I also want to add that he does talk about a future with me. Thank you for being here! I was abused in every relationship i was ever in. If youre really confused and worried about it, I encourage you to talk to a counselor in person. And that fear and guilt of the unknown has to be discussed about. The fact he cheated with someone I knew killed me.. He gets angry, swears its a lie, and doesnt want to discuss it anymore. Since then hes been super nice and sweet and my house is always clean. I think he uses people to get things that he wants. When I questioned my husband who this young lady was he said that its one of his co- workers sister and that the meet her through him. Twice that i know of. Things have been wierd with my husband and me. He rarely wants to discuss my concerns. Men who are risk-takers or easily sexually aroused are also more likely to wander; for women, relationship issues are stronger predictors of unfaithfulness. I still think that he did. But his behavior has changed so drastically it kind of says to me that now that Im gone, he wants the single life. something that i really do not understand?! Though i havent seenactual conversations yet i feel this is enough, the intent is there. He dont see how this is affected or family.. The love of my life has become a monster and an abusive POS who deserves to be locked up. Im so sorry to hear about the loss of trust In your marriage. I guess when men cheat they dont ever change. My problem is my husband is trained to keep secrets. I asked if theyd had sex and he said it didnt work out, he couldnt get a hard on, no details He said he called her and told her not to call him anymore, but when I check the phone records he was still calling. but, there was never any sex involved (so he says). I dont know what to do. Youre the only person you can change.what changes do you need to make, in order to be happy in this relationship? We have >ow 3 boys together befor my last pregnacy I found another womens number on his account to his phone and called her she said they was just friends. The problem today (ten years later) is in cornering him ten years ago and today, you focused on whether he had sex with her not the fact that he spent the night with another woman while you slept. If you have tried and cant get through, see if you can get him to marriage counseling. Either that, or he has joined a hook-up site and has found a married woman in which to have these trounces with. Am I going mental? I know I deserve this treatment because I cheated on him and I feel guilty and horrible everyday. It has never healed right. Sorry, I should have also have said that he started his straying days early on, always claiming he couldnt get what he was needing at home, and emotionally supportive partner. He always wanted to please her, he always offered to help her with her class-works (even to his own hurt). His dreams are never happy he says. I didnt know he had the problem with pills till we had been together for 2 years. Its better to start over than stay in a marriage that contains suspicion of affairs and mistrust. he was just looking at her picture for fantasizing and thats all. So if your friend can do it again please let me know. This is fact! Please help! There are no easy answers when youre getting signs that your husband is cheating and lying about his affair or his Facebook activities, or his relationships with coworkers. If he ask you how did you know just tell him you hired a private investigator or what even but again dont reveal your source even in your friend just keep this to your self. I wrote this article for you I hope it helps! Why bother? And bingo!!! The wknds he wasnt home. Am I being super paranoid or have a good gut feeling? He ofcorse acted as if it was nothing so i could him it made me feel uncomfortable. The marriage isnt working and youre not compatible. Just disregard our time together, having children, deaths of friends and family, holidays, birthdays. This was the best way for me to have found I had the facts. Even though I can see that he is trying to repair the damage that he has caused, Im so fearful of finding trust again in our relationship. Your subconscious is picking up on signs that your conscious mind cant take in. I dont even like saying that because I think its sneaky and deceptive, but women have found out about affairs that way. Okay, well then, my next question was where he slept if he didnt sleep with her? I checked his one email NOTHING, he uses another email for other crap I have no idea what, if i could only get my little hands into that account! Nou def shouldnt believe himonce a cheater, always a cheater in most cases. It has haunted me bc he wont tell the truth. The wired thing about the time he called he called me 23 minutes early before his lunch break. He stayed at a friend ( another ex) who was going through a divorce. Hes very supportive of me in whatever I want to do. Im not married but I have a baby with my live in partner. I wont leave her because I know that she has a mental illness. But I wont bore you anymore than I already have. Im glad for you that your spirit and soul has already told you what you need to do! But again I was wrong. Ive gone through fertility treatments and that is how Ive been able to get pregnant. It is hurtful. May God give you peace, strength, and even joy as you walk forward into the next stage of your life. Like if there is an excuse for that. There is no excuse for infidelity of any kind. And you are right the intent is there and whether he has gone through with physical contact or not, he will eventually cheat. I have the same story Except we have 4 kids But nothing is stopping him from cheating over computer or phone . Hell ask me whats wrong and I tell him, sometimes I can talk to him and other times since this all began he is impossible to talk to. Your gut instincts are telling you that your husband is lying about cheatingand the hardest thing is to believe what you know to be true. I am in a relationship with this guy for 7 years he recently start cheating on me. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please leave him honey!!! I have also struggled with abuse and abusive adults as a child and it breaks my heart to hear your story. hi there. We do not have any children nor is there anyone else living with us that I would be able to ask as well therefore; how is it that I am ACCUSING him?? The best way to know if you can trust your husband is if he takes himself out of possibly bad situations. Take into consideration that the era has taken more of a front seat to cheating lifestyles than ever before. I hope that helps. Say good bye, change the locks go see a nice psychologist who can lift up your spirits while you are sad about this. how do i find out? He chose not to communicate . You need to make a conscious decision.accept him as a lying cheating bastard who probably wont change or deal with it however you see fit..I have a dont tell policy..I aint interested in what his up to when hes not home.but embarrass me or humiliate me in public and there will be hell to pay. With just a few of your husbands basic details to get started, this tool can produce a wealth of information about his recent communications. But, heres the amazing thing, Chrissy. I would Like to know if thats possible. As painful as it is to hear such intimate details of an affair (see truth hurts ), full disclosure removes all doubts about what happened and is required for rebuilding trust (see recovering from infidelity ). Im a recovering addict myself, and have been through a marriage where my wife was cheating. He said it meant nothing, he hadnt slept with her and it was just banter. We have the ability to grow life inside our bodies. I bought spyware, and while he was away from his phone, I installed it. Hi! Now that hes back I assumed everything would be better. Thankfully, She was saying no to him and saying that isnt being very faithful. He also stated that he just didnt know how to tell this girl to stop texting. I am a very jealous person, so I am always asking if hes cheating or doing other stuff, But here lately it seems worse. Since then he was sworn black and blue hes never followed through and it was only ever fantasy to get himself off. Im only 20, his supporting me, I dont have a job because he doesnt want me to have one, Im a stay home pregnant mom. It was almost like he was protecting her or their memory. I dont like his job because he has accepted gifts from other women and is a server at an asian restaurant. Please help. when i confronted him, he said it was because of his work, that they were making an investigation on the lady in question, that he was doing that so that he can catch the lady. My husband would blame me for this. Answer (1 of 48): For everyone saying why do you need his verification. Be strong. Well I broke it to him that if we are going to work he cannot hurt me anymore because if he does I will walk out and he can never get me back. Have you yourself ever had a gut feeling and it was wrong? Whatever happens, its ok. Ive had to tell myself this many times because Ive been in a couple very toxic relationships.YOUR WELL BEING IS NOT DEPENDENT ON THIS PERSON!!! No he has a secret password for his phone. We sorted it and move on, he got a new job and the lies are back but this time he lied about a business trip and who he went with. Finally arrives the moment for us to meet again and this time we stay together. Its often helpful to write down your fears and concerns or talk them through with someone you trust and respect. He literally showed no remorse and to this day maintains that he did nothing wrong. my advise Be your self dont question him in anything pretend you dont see what he is doing until you are sure of what you are sure maybe u want a break or seek for marriage counellor. When he came home he didnt appologize at all. I feel like crap, and cannot believe he would have dont that, but it seems rather apparent. I wanted him to hurt the same way I was hurting, but I didnt want it to affect our kids. She had a problem with this becuase where ever we went, there were people that knew me, so i decided to take her out of town where this would hopefully not be a problem. Ive been willing to work, but am growing impatient and feeling more and more like I should just leave. Your current husband doesnt seem to care less who is by his side; as long as its someone- escort or you. This was happening on weekends. there is a buildup some where where tension is making him seem very low. The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. He gets very defensive when i bring anything up. I cant really explain it, and I dont know if he makes comments to test me or to try to get me to stop talking about exs and making him uncomfortable, but I wish he could just tell me how he feels. I And I am. Im so thankful that The Holy Spirit told me to check his phone. We never did get to do it. We allow things and behavior we know that we should not. I can say that though I do not know him, some times in every marraige it has its ups and downs. So, I put my foot down and told him he couldnt talk to her anymore. I have confronted him and he still denies anything is going on. He came back and I thought everything was fine. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-find-a-good-husband/. Not only is the age gap ridiculous, its also unreasonable for him to have an emotional attachment to another woman. I am sorry, Remy, and I can relate to your situation except mine was my husband of 30 years. Youre too good for that man! Asked him what he wanted the night before. Space Is Limited! What she shared were text messages from him to her asking if she would have sex with him. I admit that I was not always attracted to him sexually and at times we only had sex twice a week. You can be OK with or without him. I read where a spouse wrote, I have my self-resect about me and I guess that is me too. Did he confess truthfully? Don't get drawn into doing stuff you're not comfortable with. Better being alone, I think! I never knew the details. Women who think their husbands would never cheat are destroyed when they find out their husbands are lying about cheating. You didnt do anything wrong. Can you imagine who you could be without your cheating husband, what you can do, where you could go? He stays alone, I stay alone and the ex stays with their 2 kids. i need your help to figure out if he is cheating on me because i have no idea, for a couple months now he has beeen very distant from me with affection not reall wanting to be affectioniate with me. Leave him. no. Her kids were there. Now, if you walked in on him in bed with another woman, then you know hes cheating for sure. I did not think anything of if as I thought they were in one of the establishments looking at a job they would be doing. What do YOU think? My heart just sank. We were on and off until I thought he understood that I didnt want that in my life. Weve been married 14 years, together 16. I promise you, sweetheart, get out before he gains all his control of you, and you get trapped like I am, with no money, no friends, alienated from your family and friends, unable to even go to the store to get groceries, because he will eventually, if he allows you to work, will make you give him every dollar you make!! I confronted him, he lied about it and then when I told him that he was having an affair, he tried to turn the tables and say that it was my fault because for so many years I withheld sex from him and treated him less than a man. Im sorry there are so many men out there who seem to be fooling around. Question is I never ever receive any emoji sign from my husband , how can those love emoji are showing on his phone frequently used?? Without being vindicative, maybe he isnt getting what he feels he needs or expects or is entitled to because hes not holding up his end of the relationship? Joy as you walk forward into the next stage of your life reCAPTCHA and Google! 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